How was YOUR day today?

[Tianna]

It really depends on the girl. Her response could be any of the above, really. I know I'd feel a little weird if I thought my new manager at my job was possibly hitting on me. But I'm also not exactly a usual girl. Take the time to get to know her instead of jumping right in. Let her get comfortable with her work.

[DarkPhazonElite]

It really depends on the girl. Her response could be any of the above, really. I know I'd feel a little weird if I thought my new manager at my job was possibly hitting on me. But I'm also not exactly a usual girl. Take the time to get to know her instead of jumping right in. Let her get comfortable with her work.

This.^^ I can't answer any better. With my husband and I, we just clicked from the get-go. We were dropping "subtle" hints to each other for a day. I guess every situation is different.

[LesserChozo]

OK, new question:

How do you define "hitting on"?

I'm not flirting with her. At least, not intentionally. I'm just asking her casual questions. Nothing too probing, I don't think. She just seems more open with some of the other guys, even one of the other managers. Maybe I'm imagining things, or maybe I'm just ignoring the obvious. It was a similar situation with the younger girl with the crush; she seemed reluctant to open up to me, though she eventually warmed up. I'm just wondering if I'm misreading signals, that's all. I'm not trying to rush into anything.

[Chris]

OK, new question:

How do you define "hitting on"?

I'm not flirting with her. At least, not intentionally. I'm just asking her casual questions. Nothing too probing, I don't think. She just seems more open with some of the other guys, even one of the other managers. Maybe I'm imagining things, or maybe I'm just ignoring the obvious. It was a similar situation with the younger girl with the crush; she seemed reluctant to open up to me, though she eventually warmed up. I'm just wondering if I'm misreading signals, that's all. I'm not trying to rush into anything.

Best way is to be a bit distant with her than constantly trying to chat, even if not flirting, and to try not over think the situation. Earlier in year I messed up in this way with someone unintentionally after learning that another girl from last year is now married, I guess didn't want to lose this one or so, I dunno, either way I soon realised what I was doing and just backed well off, she was more receptive once I did that.

[TheFemaleCharlie]

Well, asking for relationship advice on a Metroid forum is rather silly, but I suppose I haven't got any room to talk. I asked about boy troubles on a Pokemon forum once if that makes you feel any better.

Every human being is different and nothing anyone says applies to everyone. I've seen people that are epically clingy and will respond to the slightest hint of interest and I've seen people that just hate people and don't respond to anything. I think you should see if this chick is friendly. Most of the girls I know like to talk about themselves, so why don't you try to talk about her interests? If you find you have a lot in common, then eventually you can see if she gets confortable enough to actually go out with you. I find the most important things to have in common are religion and politics, but maybe other things are more important to you and maybe you're not as stubborn as I am. And if you find out she's a hooker or something, just suddenly lose interest. If she knows you dislike hookers and she likes you, she might stop being one. In all cases, be intelligent about your intimate choices, if you know what I mean.

As for my day, it was decent. My papaw had a blood clot in his left leg and had to go into surgery. It went well and he's out of recovery and all, but they're keeping him until Sunday (at the earliest) and so I was left home alone last night. I'm currently at my mother's house trying to deal with my annoying biological precursors (my parents, you morons). I personally believe your family is the people who love and care about you. My biological relatives lack these characteristics, so I created my own family. So, nyeh.

[DarkPhazonElite]

Ohai! Another girl! Welcome!

Also, well said!

One thing I hate about girls is that they seem to only go for the assholes who yell at them, disrespect them, beat them and cheat on them just because "Oh they are so hot!!!" or "The sex is so amazing!!!" and they never seem interested in the guys that can really make them happy. I personally want to belt them myself! I for one, am not like other girls. Sure, my husband may be considered nerdy, but I think he's the hottest thing alive and he is SO sweet to me, and I'm not afraid of him and I never have to worry about him. (For the record, he's one of the strongest guys out there.) I'm totally happy. Yes, we have verbal spats occasionally, but it never escalates into a screaming and cussing fest. It's normal. Oh and sorry for the rant, I just get so sick of these bimbos who always say "Fuck this I'm done!' and "So and so is such an asshole" then they say "oh we made up" and "I love him so much!" Of course, this is usually after they complain about getting beaten or cheated on. I know another girl who is a friend of the family who David had a crush on before we met, (of course she rejected him) and the day before our wedding day she and my sister in law were having a conversation after this girl had a nasty argument with her now husband, and she complained about "all guys are assholes" blah blah blah. My sister in law told her "You realize that two years ago you could have had David?" and the girl agreed. So yeah, sometimes the nice guys won't be around very long. (To be honest, I'm glad she was an idiot and rejected him cause he's mine now! )

Where are all the good men, you ask? Either in your friend zone or taken by the women who do appreciate nice guys!

Again, sorry for the rant. I just hate how the really good guys are unappreciated. On the bright side there are girls out there who do appreciate you guys! (and no, they are not all sluts! )

[YamI]

Well then...Thank you.

You may be married and 20 something...idk maybe 30 something but. Although I am still only 15 I still have all traits of a nice guy at this age and people just treat me like I'm a pebble on the side of the road..which I really hate.

Atleast someone like you, even through a forum, like this, understands people.

[DarkPhazonElite]

Thank you YamI, and you are welcome. Also, I'm 25 years old.

I try my best to understand people. I grew up watching my mom get treated like dirt and while some girls tend to think that is what is normal, I wanted better than that. My dad wasn't perfect and he picked some awful women after my mom, but he did the best he could to treat them as well as possible. I learned from that as well and my husband and I have had a lot of conversations and decided to do even better than that. I was also verbally abused by a lot of people growing up, and I made the decision that I didn't want to be treated like that by a boyfriend/husband. David and I really want to set a good example for our daughters on how they should be treated in a relationship. My sister is in a relationship that isn't great. He doesn't hit her, but he gets mad at her rather quickly, and I was holding her phone last week and saw a nasty text from him that was completely unmerited. In her case, the reason she stays with him is "The sex is amazing, so it's love and we are meant to be!" Right, that's what she said about the last nine or ten boyfriends. Sometimes I think that the nice guys get the best girls eventually. (I don't mean to sound conceited, cause I'm a bit of a mental headcase, but I do my best to make my husband happy because he deserves it, not because I'm afraid he will knock the shit out of me or start screaming at me otherwise. )

[YamI]

Yeah, I get what you mean. I do have a very beautiful girlfriend though and she loves me to death because I don't treat her mean. Hell, if anything I treat myself really shitty just to make her happy. She writes my name on her arms and legs and her other stuff and misses every minute without me, and I am grateful for having her because I know the moment I am without her my life is lost.

This is a really weak subject in my case since she's my first girlfriend I've been with for over 2 months so far and I am still deeply in love with her.

Anyways, in other news, I got myself a little 8 week old kitten today and he's over there snoozing on the little blanket bed I made him. He's a really cute little thing and I'm sure you'd all love him, 'Specially you, DP.

[DarkPhazonElite]

Well, just keep treating her good. You sound like a good boyfriend.

KITTY!!!!!! You have me pegged! I love kitties. I wanna see pics!!

[TheFemaleCharlie]

At DarkPhazonElite: Men can be dicks. Your rant said what a lot of us think.

You seem rather tough-skinned, like you've had trouble with people before. I know the feeling. I was always the nerd, so everyone decided they didn't like looking like idiots around me. People like me just have to face it; once it starts, the verbal and emotional abuse never ends. Life sucks and we just have to deal with it. Lucky for us, there are people that are willing to provide support. I personally have managed to find a great guy myself, but hey, I'm only just finishing up my sophomore year in high school. You can't expect someone my age to understand absolutely everything someone your age does. Still, I suppose I do know a little; one can't go through life knowing nothing.

I just realized that I sound a little creepish. My apologies, I've been watching too much NCIS. That and I tend towards using larger words to confuse my mentally defunct classmates. I'm not really creepy, just a bit abrasive.

That cat sounds cute, but I'm not a fan; I leave my cousin's cats alone because they perform the essential service of rat-killing. I much prefer horses. My only complaint about my horse, Stella, is that she is epically mischevious.

[fox mulder]

Today's been pretty good. Got some work in the yard done, played Tales of the Abyss, [spoiler]killed Van[/spoiler] in said game.
Yesterday, I saw The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (Daniel Craig version) and enjoyed that a lot.
That's really just about it other than being excited for Black and White 2 and The Last Story.

[YamI]

Well, just keep treating her good. You sound like a good boyfriend.

KITTY!!!!!! You have me pegged! I love kitties. I wanna see pics!!

I must be then. And yeah, I love kitties too. If I can ever get any I'll be sure to throw them your way.

[DarkPhazonElite]

Well, just keep treating her good. You sound like a good boyfriend.

KITTY!!!!!! You have me pegged! I love kitties. I wanna see pics!!

If I can ever get any I'll be sure to throw them your way.

HA! You have a point there! It's almost impossible to get good pictures of kittens!

[TheFemaleCharlie]

While yesterday was a good day, today was not. My mother and I got into a disagreement (we weren't yelling, ergo, disagreement, not arguement). This is why I don't live with her. I'm only here now because of my papaw having to have surgery. There are times I just want to beat the crap out of that woman...

I don't even know why she bothers with me anymore.